First: Facebook Live Video
Ready to Kick Your Chronic Pain To The Curb? FREE 30-Day Chronic Pain Challenge!
Link or attach today’s video here: Part 1: https://www.facebook.com/chronicpainkillerz/videos/159126674684009/
Following my Sudden Cardiac Arrest in the fall of 2010, one of my friends recommended I check out a book by Lynn Grabhorn, called, “Excuse Me, Your LIFE Is Waiting.”
It challenged my thinking.
It caused me to examine so many things in my life.
I highly recommend that anyone who has chronic pain get a copy and read it.
Read it and DO the corresponding work book.
After I read the book, I sought out the work book.
It took me over 6 months to complete it.
It was hard.
I committed to myself when I started it, that I would do each exercise in order…
and that I wouldn’t move on until I finished each exercise.
I had to actually complete and DO each activity, honestly and to the best of my ability.
I don’t even recall right now, which exercises caused me the most difficulty.
I do remember looking at one page every day for, like 2 months…
every day I would pull out the book…
get a no…
not ready to do it yet…
not ready to face it yet…
not ready to let go of it…
Them, one day…
I just did it.
I was ready…
and the exercise just flowed out of me.
I completed it and several others that same day.
I got stuck, like that, on a couple of other activities.
Never for so long, but still stuck.
By listening to myself and just knowing I would tackle them when I was ready, willing, and able to…
I got the whole thing done.
But it wasn’t about doing a work book…
It was not about answering questions that someone else posed to me…
It was about who I was becoming…
Who I was willing to become.
That is what the whole exercise and work book were about.
I know that some of the things I am saying and asking you to do are really hard.
I doubt many folks can and will do all of them…
I know how much you can/weill/could benefit by doing these 30 days…
giving it your all…
really opening your mind and heart to the possibility of
creating a life without chronic pain!
Are you ready?
Are you ready to live differently?
Are you really ready?
I was going to put the Amazon link here, but I got side-tracked and bought another copy of the updated study edition, another copy of the workbook and another book that is about success stories from people who love (like me) the first book!
You can just search for it on Amazon…that site is dangerous for me!
We will talk about Lynn more later.
Today I really want to talk about TRIGGERS
What the heck is a trigger?
Why do you want to talk about them?
Why do I care?
Triggers are anything that ‘sets you off’.
As I think about my chronic pain, a trigger is anything that increases or triggers me to experience more pain.
Weather, specifically pressure changes and cold, are HUGE triggers for my particular types of pain.
As the weather gets colder or if there is a storm coming…I know it way in advance.
I don’t feel it in my bones,
it screams at me through various joints in my body.
Over time, which areas are impacted more has changed…
but pain is pain!
It all freakin’ hurts!
Why do I want to talk about triggers today?
Because I was HIT square between the eyes by one this morning…and it reminded me about the importance of emotional triggers and things from the past.
When I was married, my husband was pretty much a control-freak.
This is, of course, my opinion, but that was my reality.
A couple of times during our marriage, he thought it was necessary to send me a message.
He, of course, claimed he was being helpful…
but to me, he was being mean and controlling.
I had a bunch of craft creating supplies, stored in our furnace room.
A room nobody goes in, but once a year to change the furnace filters or fill the water softener with pellets.
A very remote part of the house.
One day, while I was at work, he decided that those boxes of things needed to go to Good Will. So he took them there.
Now, granted, I had been too busy running our businesses to do anything crafty for a couple of years.
But he did not ask me.
He did not even conside asking me.
He just did it.
I blew a gasket.
Fast forward a couple of years later…
After this incident, I moved several boxes of my kids things (my daughter’s Barbie collection, my son’s Legos…things they had outgrown, but I wanted to save for them when they grew up…down to a storage room at my business
These were at my business…in a storage room…behind a door…not in anyone’s way.
One day I go to the storage room and discover the X has taken all of those tubs, but one partial one of Legos…too Good Will.
Out of anyones’s way, but a way to act like he was the boss of me and could decide what I get to keep or not.
A few more things, but they are not important to this story….
This morning, I am looking for some of my supplement containers.
My kids are home ‘helping me’ clean and organize my house to get it ready to sell, after my divorce.
The containers are gone…even though I specifically asked the kids NOT to throw them away!
I am grumbling and looking through cupboards, trying to find where the kids put them…
Getting more and more irritated…
Until it dawns on me…
This is an OLD Trigger…
and I do not have to be impacted by it anymore.
So I took a deep breath,
reminded myself the kids really are helping me
–difference in intent from the person/reason/circumstance…
from when that trigger was set…
and that I did not have to let it negatively impact me.
I stopped being upset and let it GO…
Now, I am not going to say it was easy.
It took me a good couple of minutes to actually realize what I was doing.
It could have gone the other way.
I could have made a whole huge deal out of it.
I could have woken the kids up, demanded to know what they did with my stuff, etc.
Made it a big fight…
Ok, I admit it.
That is exactly what happened with the X on a couple of occasions.
would that have gotten me the outcome I want?
It would have just upset me further,
upset the kids (because they are being a tremendous help)
and probably made them not want to…
or heck no…that would be terrible…help me anymore.
As I am thinking about this situation….
and I am considering it. I realize, I am in control.
I do not have to let a trigger from the past continue to operate in my life.
Why is thie important to you or why do you care?
Because we all have triggers.
We all have things outside of us…
some we can control….
some we have no control over (say, the weather)…
that TRIGGER US.
They trigger our emotions,
they trigger our feelings…
they trigger our pain!
Take some time today and for the rest of this challenge,
to really pay attention to what sets you off.
What makes your pain worse?
What makes your pain less intense?
Do certain people impact you in a less than positive way?
Do certain foods make you feel better or worse?
Do some thoughts increase your pain level?
Do particular feelings make your pain increase?
All of the above impact me.
I consciously monitor these things much of the time.
I take actions, specific actions to ‘control’ the things I can…
For example: there are certain people, and certain types of people who upset me and when I am upset, my pain increases (or at least feels worse)…so, I do not spend hardly any time around those folks
Weather…not gonna be able to do much about that.
I wonder every winter why I still live in Wisconsin, but family and businesses keep me here, so I take steps to minimize the impact weather has on me…warm fuzzy socks, cozy blankets, heaters and fireplaces….are my best friends on cold days.
You get the idea.
It is important that you figure out what works for you and begin to incorporate those things into your life.
Before I had pain in my life (other than the usual teenage heartache)…
I was a non-routine, non-planning type.
Now…there are certain routines (habits)…
I hold very dear and practice, automatically.
The more things I can now set up to help me function,
the happier and easier my life it…
The happier and easier things in my life are…
The less chronic pain I experience.
I do not think so.
But really, what you think is what counts for you.
That is true of everything…whether you believe it or not.
It is another one of those Universal Law things…
Third: Power Thought Card
“I love life”
“It is my birthright to live fully and freely. I give to Life exactly what I want Life to give to me. I am glad to be alive. I love Life!”
I am moving today.
I am moving right now.
Why is it so easy for me to move today? (right now)
Fifth: If This Is Your Life, Here Are The Rules Card:
“Restore yourself to a state of well-being.”
Nature Of Infinite Love & Gratitude Card:
“Judgment robs me of witnessing everyday miracles. I am open to loving myself enough to be me.”
Does this make me feel better or worse?
Does this make me feel lighter or heavier?
Does this decrease my pain or increase my pain?
Move toward the things that are FOR YOU…make you feel better, lighter, less pain.
Move away from (avoid) the things that make you feel worse, negative, heavier, more pain…
Seventh: Today’s Share Challenge
Share under today’s Facebook Live, one of your pain triggers. What have or could you do about it?
I shared an example above…noticed it, (someone getting rid of something of ‘mine’ upsets me), realized it was from the past and no longer applied (the motives and associated emotions no longer are relevant in my life), so let it go!
The hardest triggers to see and catch ourselves being manipulated by are the ones from the past that have strong emotional charges attached to them.
They also have the greatest positive impact on our lives when we see them and take back control of our lives!
That’s it for today.
Chronic Pain may be a part of your life, but it does not have to be your life.
See You Tomorrow,
P.S. Don’t forget to share today!
There is so much we can learn from each other.