First: Facebook Live Video
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Today we are going to go back to some strategies I learned from Louise Hay.
Her workbook and You Can Heal Your Life book are great tools if you have never been exposed to them.
I have gone through them years ago, but am going through and doing the challenge right along with you.
Who am I to challenge you to do things…
if I am not willing to do them too?
On the video today…
which I did first because I am feeling a bit under the weather…
We all have those days…
Some are more challenging than others.
So today, we are going to do a 6 question exercise.
We will continue to look into our past.
Not to dwell there, but to look for answers.
Answers that might lead us to things that will help reduce our chronic pain.
That is what we are all here for, right?
To do whatever we can to figure out HOW to reduce…
If at all possible,
ELIMINATE our chronic pain.
For sure we want to remove it’s grip on our lives.
We deserve to live the life of our dreams.
We deserve to feel and experience our lives…
without the constant and persistent pain!
Here we go:
Health, Disease, Illness, Accident, Pain Excercise
1. What do you remember about childhood illness, accidents, pain?
2. What did you learn from your parents about illness, disease, accidents, pain?
3. What did you enjoy, if anything, about being sick/injured/or in pain, as a child?
4. Is there a belief about illness, disease, accidents, pain…from your childhood that you are still acting on today?
5. How have you contributed to the state of your health and pain?
6. Would you like your health/chronic pain/disease/accidents to change? If so, in what way?
Yeah. So these are some intense questions…
At least for me.
And they actually taught me a lot about myself that I was not even aware of.
Maybe if I share some of my answers and realizations, they will be helpful to you.
Feel free to skip ahead!
Just make sure you do the questions for yourself…
Did I suggest you start keeping a journal of our exercises?
I will create a workbook…down the road!
Do you think that would be helpful?
If so, let me know.
Alright, enough dragging my feet.
I will share my answers!!!
1. When I was a child I was sick quite a lot.
I was not a sickly kid, but I did get tonsillitis several times a year.
I actually became one of those kids who loved the taste of penicillin.
I was also an accident prone little bugger.
It could be because I was such an active little tom-boy.
I don’t recall my siblings being sick very much.
We all had mumps and measles and chicken pox together.
I remember one Christmas we all had chicken pox.
My grandma made us all red flannel nightgowns with matching caps.
They matched our little polka-dot bodies and faces.
2. My parents taught me that love makes illness and pain easier to tolerate.
They were very supportive and would do anything in their power to help us when we (my sisters of I)
were sick or in pain from anything.
My mom had a rare illness when we were young girls
My dad demonstrated his deep love and devotion to her in many ways.
I will meat-axe the name…erythromelalgia or something like that…but it made Mom’s legs, feet, arms, and hands feel like they were on fire. It is a rare circulatory disease, mostly found in Jewish women. No idea why my mom got it.
We would bring snow in for her to put her legs and feet in…
She got into an experimental drug program at the Mayo Clinic, which was a couple of hours from our home in Hudson, Wisconsin.
My mom did not drive, so my dad would charter a plane to fly her down to Mayo twice a week (sometimes more) for treatments.
Back then, I doubt we could afford it, but he made it happen.
My parents showed me how to love and do whatever you can for someone you care about who is in pain or sick.
3. You might be saying, that’s crazy…there is nothing I enjoyed about being sick or hurt as a kid.
It sucked. I missed out on some fun and amazing things I could have been doing.
What could I possibly have enjoyed about being sick???
I for one, got lots of attention.
In a family with four girls (all a year apart) and being a middle child…that was a benefit!
I got to eat yummy stuff, like popsicles and ice cream, when my throat hurt.
I did talk like a rusty gate hinge and still have a terrible singing voice…
but there was an upside.
I am sure I got out of doing some chores and helping out with some ‘work’ as a kid too.
I remember my dad worked a lot when we were little girls.
He traveled a lot too as we got older, for his work.
When I was about two I tripped over my tricycle running around the house with my older sister…
I remember my dad coming home from work early to meet us at the hospital (while I got my face put back together).
He brought presents…but I was just so happy to see him there…I don’t even remember what her brought.
Another time…during President Kennedy’s funeral,
Mom was ironing by the screen porch.
My sisters Julie, Carrie and I were playing in the living room,
while the funeral was on tv.
To three little girls, under 4..
.it was pretty boring stuff…
so we (at least I was) were fidgeting and playing .
We were not supposed to lean back in our chairs,
but being the ‘rule-breaker-type’ I was leaning back in my chair.
Of course, it slipped out from under me and back my head crashed on the coffee table.
Head cracked open.
I can still see my sister Julie tugging on my mom’s skirt while she was ironing…
she turned white as a ghost as I walked up to her with blood pouring out of my head.
She did not drive back then,
so she had Julie get a bath towel from the linen closed and picked me up and ran to the neighbors (to get a ride to the hospital).
I am starting to think it is a good thing we lived close to the hospital back then.
So my mom, sisters and me were all piled in the back of Mr. & Mrs. Olsen’s Pontiac.
Two bath towels of blood later,
I am in the Emergency room upset because they are going to have to shave part of my head to stitch up the gaping cut. Mom started to faint and the nurse shuttled her out as the doctor sewed up my head.
Dad came home from work early again…with presents and hugs.
Yeah…lots of love and attention.
4. Is there a belief from my childhood that I am still acting upon today?
Being sick or in pain get people to love and pay attention to me.
In my twenties, with the on-set of my chronic pain…
my parents were totally there supporting me and taking care of me.
My dad even had folks at his work looking into braille computer technology for me.
In 2010 when I had my Sudden Cardiac Arrest (although I was in a coma and being frozen) there were plenty of people there loving and praying and paying attention to me.
This continued throughout my recovery…lots of love, attention and support.
5. How have I contributed to my state of health, illness, disease, and chronic pain?
I have NOT taken good care of myself.
I have had bad habits–eating stuff that is not good for me.
Working all the time.
Putting everyone and everything before taking care of myself.
Making choices that were not in my own best interest.
Taking on way too many things, when I should have said NO.
Standing up for myself when others were not kind to me or controlled me.
Believing that there was something wrong with me because I felt, thought, or believed different things than those around me (like family and significant others)…
Thinking that I do not deserve to live a life free of chronic pain.
Feeling like I somehow deserved to be sick, tired, injured, and in pain.
Wondering if I did something wrong that I was being punished for…
Feeling all alone and like I was the only one going through what I was experiencing…
Making choices that were not in my best interests…
6. I absolutely want my chronic pain to go away and to experience perfect health.
Third: Power Thought Card
“There is plenty for everyone, including me.”
“The ocean of life is lavish with its abundance. All my needs and desires are out before I even ask. My good comes from everywhere, and everyone, and everything.”
I am full of energy.
I am full of energy right now.
Why is it so easy for me to be full of energy right now?
Fifth: If This Is Your Life, Here Are The Rules Card:
“Feel worthy and able to meet all of life’s challenges.”
Nature Of Infinite Love & Gratitude Card:
“Everything is interconnected. The journey itself reveals the balance point between my choices and experiences.”
Are you ready for your chronic pain to change and/or go away?
If not now, when?
Seventh: Today’s Share Challenge
Today, under the video on the Painkillerz Facebook page, share:
One positive thing about your chronic pain.
It allows me to say no to things that are not in my best interests.
It let’s me to say no to things I really do not want to do, but would otherwise feel guilty saying no to.
That’s it for today.
Chronic Pain may be a part of your life, but it does not have to be your life.
See You Tomorrow,
P.S. Don’t forget to share today!
There is so much we can learn from each other.