First: Facebook Live Video
Ready to Kick Your Chronic Pain To The Curb? FREE for 30-Day Chronic Pain Challenge!
Link or attach today’s video here: https://www.facebook.com/chronicpainkillerz/videos/159625137967496/
Here is the link to the PLAY Sheet for today’s exercise… https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1goHSVOmxUs0ssRh0_lJunU-4BddaGtdEgOCpEtOonpc/edit#gid=0
Today we are going to continue looking at the 4 areas of our life that we can take steps in, to impact our experiences with chronic pain.
This topic is filled with emotions for people.
It would be nice if our emotions did not impact our health, well-being and level of pain…
BUT THEY ABSOLUtELY DO!!!
Don’t believe me?
Do a little test on yourself.
Note your currently level of pain…what hurts, where does it hurt…how intense is your pain right now?
Close your eyes.
Think about a time when you were absolutely LOVING what you were doing.
jumping on a trampoline at the neighbors house when I was a kid
How were you feeling back then?
What were you seeing, smelling, tasting, hearing, feeling, touching, thinking?
Add as much sensory memory as you can.
Who were you with, if anyone?
What were you wearing? What was anyone else wearing?
Was it cold or warm out?
Can you feel the atmosphere around you.
Get back into the feeling place of actually BEING back in that time/place/experience.
Take as long as it takes you to really get into the feeling of being in this amazing and wonderful experience.
Now…what is your level of pain? Where does it hurt? What is the intensity?
Now take a deep breathe.
Close your eyes.
This time think about a time when you felt absolutely heart-broken and devasted by an experience.
Perhaps you got dumped (as in the romantic sense…I think that has happened to about all of us, at some point in our life…at least if you are over 5.)
I will use Discovering That My Spouse Had A Girlfriend…
I was going to use getting FIRED, but this popped into my mind (and is much worse feeling), so I obviously need to ‘work on it’ a bit more..
That experience sucked.
Even more than the miserable doctor appointments, the birth of my two children and kidney stone infected surgery…any of you who can relate to these thing?
You get the idea.
This exercise is not going to be pleasant, but I will teach you a trick at the end…
After I prove my point to you!
So now…do the same thing you did with the amazing experience.
Go back to that time and place.
Really feel the emotions and feeling you were experiencing back then.
Take a couple of minutes to recall as many things as you can about it…
Sights, sounds, smells, touches, tastes…use all your senses…whatever makes it more real to you…
Are you there?
Are you as angry and pissed off as you were in the moment?
Good (ok, not good, but necessary)!
Now…check in with your level of pain.
What do you rate it?
Where does it hurt?
Does it feel different than it did before you did this part of the exercise?
Here is a way to reverse and alleviate the impact of dredging up those negative feelings.
But I wanted you to KNOW that your body DOES react to your emotions.
Go ahead and think about that horse-shit situation.
Now…as you are there, in that time and place…
Start changing things.
Make them as ridiculous and comical as you can.
I imagined my ex’s pants actually starting on fire as he tried to twist and lie his way out of the situation…
I saw his tongue turn to worms that grew into snakes that spilled out of his mouth…
I felt the cool air in the garage (where we were fighting) turn to a warm comforting breeze on my skin…my cheeks, my hands…
I heard his voice getting quieter and quieter until it disappeared all together and only his lips were moving.
I kept making the situation funnier and funnier,
more outrageous and ridiculous in my mind…
until I can feel myself smiling and laughing about it.
When I get to this point…
I want to anchor that better feeling…
so I snap my fingers.
We can talk about different types of anchors and ways to anchor feeling you want more in the future…just let me know.
Snapping my fingers is a quick and easy one for me.
I snap my fingers three times.
With each snap, the scene gets smaller and smaller…on the final snap…it disappears all together.
I take a deep breath…
And feel much better.
Now, when I try to recall this particular event…
it has totally changed in my mind and memory.
It no longer has the devastatingly negative emotional charge attached to it.
I can actually smile (and sometimes even laugh) about it.
This is one of my favorite ways to let go of things…
when I finally realize that they are still impacting my thoughts and feelings.
Please try this, if you never have before.
It is such an amazing and powerful strategy.
Everyone should have it in their LIFE TOOL BOX.
Even people without chronic pain have BAD experiences…
and until we let go of them…they do impact our life.
Do you feel better?
Do it again.
Do it with anything that is bothering you…past, present, future (worries).
I know it works!!!
You deserve to experience it’s power too.
Can we agree then, that our emotions impact our experience of pain?
What are some ways we can take action to deal with our emotions?
Here you go:
- Tough-talk to self
- Tender-talk to self
- Flood You With Gratitude
- Allow some UGLY thoughts
- Marveled at ________________________________
As I mentioned earlier, this is from Lynn Grabhorn’s teachings and the chart on my wall…
Better have a little bit of discussion about each thing.
Tough-talk to yourself
Most of us have a PH. D. in talking negatively to our self.
there is a difference in talking negatively and talking tough.
Tough comes from a place of LOVE.
Negative, self degrading or demeaning or criticizing…comes from the opposite place.
Tough love is about holding yourself accountable to…
doing more, trying more, working harder, believing in yourself and the possibilities that are available to you, about telling yourself YOU GOT THIS…buck up buttercup…one step at a time…
Tender-talk towards you…
This also comes from a place of love.
Encourage and build yourself up.
Increase your confidence and belief in you.
YOU are your own best friend…talk to you that way!
Flood yourself with gratitude.
One of the fastest ways to change anything in your life…including chronic pain…is through gratitude.
Being thankful and grateful for what you do have, what you can do, what is working…gives you more of it.
We always get what we focus on and expect…(Universal Law, remember)…
So the more we can expect, think about, focus on, believe…feel..grateful, the more things we will have to feel fortunate about.
Allowing some UGLY thoughts is all about letting yourself have those negative thoughts…without judging them.
Let yourself FEEL them…
Let them FLOW through you…
Don’t let them set up camp and STAY in you…
But…it you deny them and act like they don’t exist…
They will rear their UGLY head and show up at the most inappropriate of times!
So, have the pity party…
say for 5 minutes…
Set a timer.
When the timer rings…
Let it go…
Move on and do something that makes you smile.
Even if it is…just to smile (and think of ONE thing you are grateful for right this very instant).
This is another incredibly powerful technique.
Changing our emotions and perspective is as easy as flipping a light switch.
We just add all kinds of crap to ‘it’ to make it hard on ourselves.
We tell ourself all sort of stories…
and out right lies…
to make excuses…
for NOT flipping the switch.
BUT…magic happens when you turn on the LIGHT!
Marveled at _________________ is all about looking around you
and really NOTICING how miraculous life, your body, everything IS!
There are way more miraculous, unexplainable, fascinating things going on all around you…than you can even imagine.
Consider the smallest thing.
The fact that it even exists and you are observing it…is a miracle.
All the things that have to happen for our senses to work…alone is amazing.
What are you curious about?
What intrigues you?
What can you notice today, that you probably have seen thousands of times…and never really seen?
That ought to be enough to get you going for today!!!
Third: Power Thought Card
“I can release the past and forgive everyone.”
:”I free myself and everyone in my life from old past hurts. They are free and I am free to move into new, glorious experiences.”
Does anyone else find it fascinating that drawing random cards…just happen to go so well with what we are talking about for the day???
I got this…I am confident.
I am confident I’ve got this right now.
Why is it so easy for me to be confident that I’ve got this (right now)?
Fifth: If This Is Life, These Are The Rules Card:
“Explore your preferences then select your action.”
Nature Of Infinite Love & Gratitude Card:
“The more I practice owning my power, the better I am at moving with the flow of life.”
What emotion do I choose to experience right now?
What emotion am I choosing to experience right now?
Seventh: Today’s Share Challenge
Under today’s Facebook Live…
Share ONE EMOTION YOU WANT TO ELIMINATE FROM YOUR LIFE…
Wanna know mine?
I actually DID this.
I will share tomorrow what it was and HOW I did it!!!
That’s it for today.
Chronic Pain may be a part of your life, but it does not have to be your life.
See You Tomorrow,
P.S. Don’t forget to share today!
There is so much we can learn from each other.